Not many people I know ask me why I don't have kids or if I'm going to have kids. This is probably because they already know that I don't and I won't!
While there are a million reasons I don't want kids, I think the main reason is simply this: I just don't have any desire at all. There is not a single bone in my body that wants to bring a human into the world and be it's mom for the rest of my life. It actually grosses me out to even type that sentence.
The only people that really bring up the subject anymore are people I don't know very well at all. One of the only times I get asked if I have kids is when I'm getting a hair cut and the hairdresser is trying to make small talk with me!
I used to get asked more often. There were a couple things people would say that really freaking annoyed me....
"Oh, you'll change your mind!" <---- Really!? How would you feel if I told you that you'd change your mind about wanting children?
"Someday you'll regret it!" <---- Again, what if I told you someday you'd regret your decision about having children?
"I just can't imagine my life without children." <---- Great, glad you are happy! I am happy too!
"It must be nice to not be busy." <---- I have a full time job, 2 part time jobs, take care of a house, a husband, and 2 cats. You're right, I'm not busy at all!
"Not having children is selfish." <----- OMG STFU!!!!!!!
These comments haven't been thrown at me in quite awhile- probably because it has become more socially acceptable for couples to make the decision to not have children. This is a good thing. My mouth is a lot more sassy than it was several years ago, so if someone were to say something judge-y to me about not having kids, I feel like they would get a lot of snark coming from me!
Well, I can't always do whatever the hell I want... but I kind of can!
Do people ask you stupid questions about your lifestyle choices?
How do you respond?
How do you respond?