What is the Four Tendencies? It is a framework that describes how we each respond to outer and inner expectations. Here is a description of each tendency straight from Gretchen's website:
Upholder: “I do what others expect of me—and what I expect from myself.”
Questioner: “I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”
Obliger: “I do what I have to do. I don’t want to let others down, but I may let myself down.”
Rebel: “I do what I want, in my own way. If you try to make me do something—even if I try to make myself do something—I’m less likely to do it.”
The other night (when I couldn't fall asleep!) I finally decided to take the Four Tendencies Quiz to find out if I was an Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel. My result came loud and clear. I am a Questioner. And after reading the description of a Questioner, I wholeheartedly believe the quiz got it right!
Here are some characteristics of Questioners:
- Questioners only respond to expectations that make sense. Expectations must be inner expectations.
- Questioners resist anything that lacks purpose.
- Questioners are motivated by reason and fairness.
- Questioners tend to be intellectually engaged and will do research.
- Questioners tend to only take direction from people they respect.
- Questioners dislike being questioned themselves. They feel they consider their decisions carefully and don't want to justify them.
- Questioners will stick to a new habit if they find it useful.
Now go take the Four Tendencies Quiz (it takes like 5 minutes) and let me know what you are in the comments!