A couple weeks ago, I shared some big news that Paul and I got divorced. While this year has been very difficult in many ways, I know it was the right decision.
When Paul moved out, it wasn't as big of a transition as I thought it would be. Of course that's easy for me to say as I was the one who got to stay in the house. I totally recognize this. All I can share with you is my truth and my point of view.
Once I was living alone, I felt free and like I had a new lease on life. I was surprised I felt this way because throughout our marriage, Paul and I were very independent. Sure, we spent a lot of time together, but never did I feel like I needed to ask permission to do anything. So why did I suddenly feel so free?
Living alone is awesome in that you can be totally selfish in how you live a great deal of your life. For instance, during the school year I get up around 5:00. Most of the time it's dark and cold. When Paul lived here, I had to tip toe around all morning. It's a small ranch house, so it wasn't like I could turn on lights, music, or the television. I couldn't even do light chores for the fear of waking him up. Paul never ordered me to be quiet in the morning, it is just something I happily did to be considerate to him. He would have done the same for me. It's just what you do when you live with someone you love.
But once I lived alone, my mornings got so much better! When I got up, I felt like I could start my day right away. I turned on lights. I turned on music. I opened the front door to let the sunshine in. I said good morning to my cats in that wonderful high pitched voice I use when talking to my kitties. I felt ALIVE in the mornings because I could truly wake up and start my day!
When I lived with Paul, I never yearned for the day I could wake up and be loud and truly start my day. It wasn't until I lived alone and could truly do whatever I wanted that I realized that having to keep the house dark and quiet in the morning was so depressing!
This is one of the perks of living alone and I wanted to share it with you!
If you live alone, what do you love about it?
If you don't live alone, is there something you miss about it?
Note: I'm not saying it's better to live alone than it is to live with loved ones. There are definitely perks to both! For instance, when I was married, I knew there was one person in the world that loved me and was always on my side and would do anything for me. That's a big thing to give up. Being able to be loud in the morning is definitely NOT an even trade!