The day we arrived, we went to Mission Beach and had pizza on the
The thing in San Diego, I guess, is that the clerks in the stores sort of follow you around. I couldn't take it! I just wanted to browse without someone up my butt. (Mom, you would have HATED it!)
Well, I went into a store to look for a t-shirt for my brother and the clerk in there was a young guy. (Paul was outside.) The guy could have been 21 or he could have been 26- I really could not tell. I turned down an aisle of clothing racks and he stopped at the end of the aisle and put both hands casually on opposite racks as if to "trap" me.
"Okay, I'll make you a deal," he says, all friendly. "I'll let you carry the pizza in the store if you buy a shirt." (I hadn't even told him I was there to buy a shirt.) I was EXTREMELY annoyed the way he had sort of blocked me in. He would never have done that to a GUY, nor would he have done that if Paul was in there with me. But because I was a GIRL, it was okay, and it was okay for him to "make deals with me."
I stared at him with a dead panned look on my face. "Is there a problem with me carrying my pizza in here?" I asked, exasperated.
"Ehhh we'll see," he says all chummy.
I rolled my eyes, turned around, and walked straight out of the store. He called after me, "I was just joking, ma'am, I was just kidding." But I left and I felt VERY GROSS. I hate how guys think they can treat girls however they want.
AND DON'T CALL ME MA'AM!!!
Can you relate to this situation? Where men treat you differently just because you're a girl? It happens all too often, in my opinion. I mean, even at the gym, men I don't know give me unsolicited advice. I don't see them giving GUYS they don't know unsolicited advice.
That's terrible! I am sure he wouldn't have done that if Paul was with you. But why should that make a difference? Very annoying.
ReplyDeleteI had a hard time explaining to Paul why I was mad, too.
DeleteI can't say i've been in a situation like that but I can see how that would make you uncomfortable!
ReplyDeleteYeah part of me was even thinking to myself, "I'm not young or pretty enough for you to be doing this to," and then I was like, SHUT UP BRAIN!
DeleteYuck!! You are absolutely right, I'm 100% certain he wouldn't have done that with Paul around.
ReplyDeleteUgh, it really bothers me that it's 2015 and we still have to have conversations like this. The more things change, the more they stay the same, right? It's amazing how sexism is SO deeply engrained in our culture. I do wonder if we as a society can ever really get over it. Why is it so hard to treat women with respect or just leave them the hell alone? UGH!
I do not know. And where do they get it from? TV shows?
DeleteEw, that's pretty creepy. :( Just trying to be a smoozy sales guy, but still, not cool.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't scared at all, just really freaking annoyed!
DeleteBecause we are delicate little flowers, Karen.
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What a jerk. And doesn't it suck that he's the jerk and you walk away feeling bad?! I wish stuff like this didn't happen but it does all the time and it totally catches you off guard when it does...
ReplyDeleteYES, very good point. I don't think he understood his actions.
DeleteThis kind of crap seriously ticks me off, too. It's 2015. How have people not learned to treat women fairly?! Ugh. I would've left, too. And left that store a strongly-worded review on Yelp.
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew the name of the store, I totally would. I love writing reviews- good or bad!
DeleteEw. He was clearly trying to flirt, but how gross and inappropriate. I would've been totally flustered and apologetic and then LATER would have come up with the perfect bitchy comback.
ReplyDeleteI was way too old for him to be flirting with. I am so glad I have Paul. I would not be able to take it if I had to play all those flirting games!
DeleteThis dude sounds a little creepy if you ask me!
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