The
lessons and skills you learn in between your 20s and 30s are much
different than those you learn during the first half of your life. I
wasn't completely
immature in my early 20s, but I definitely did some growing up
between the first couple years after college and now! I'd like to share with you some of the things I have learned.
Giving feels GOOD.
Sometimes it pays
to spend a little more on something if you get a better quality.
Tip well.
Don't be afraid to
say NO!
Live your life the
way you want to- it doesn't matter what other people think about your
choices.
If you don't like
something, CHANGE it!
The importance of
voting in every election.
How to mow the
lawn.
How to semi
garden.
How to make the best pumpkin cookies you will ever eat!
When I am having
doubts about something I want to accomplish, I think, “Why NOT me?”
Everyone has their
own shit they are dealing with that I probably know nothing about.
How to love an
animal unconditionally.
How to eat
“normal” 95% of the time.
Not everyone
matures. There are plenty of adults out there that still act like
they are in high school.
And
probably most importantly, I know who I am. They say you must “know
thyself”, and I can say confidently that I really
know myself.
The good, the bad, and the ugly!
What have you learned during the
last decade of your life? Are you much different than you were 10
years ago?
"Not everyone matures"<-- that is so true!! And I feel like those are the people who are the most difficult to deal with, but Ive learned you just have to take the high road and remember not to get down to their level.
ReplyDeleteThat's hard to do but yes I try to do that as much as possible! It is also nice to have the hubby to bitch to about those kinds of people!
DeleteYou have learned some great things--I agree with so many of them, except I have yet to mow the lawn! I have learned to stand in my truth because at the end of the day, I have myself to be content with. I also have learned that tomorrow really is not promised. Feel good about the choices you make, the interactions you have, the things you spend time thinking about. It seriously can be gone within seconds. Finally, I have learned to "let go". Not everything is meant to be controlled, not everyone has a bad intent if they speak a bit (what I perceive as) rudely, not every disagreement needs to be won and not every bad thing that happens needs to be figured out. Life is meant to be a beautiful, chaotic, peaceful & fulfilling journey--just let it happen and know that my reaction to it is 99% of how it will end up affecting me.
ReplyDeleteOh those are such good lessons! Cheryl just mentioned something similar to what you said about how our reaction to things is what determines how it affects us. That's a good one to learn.
DeleteGood post. I have learned that I can only control myself. I can't be in control of situations, but I can control how I respond to them.
ReplyDeleteThat is a GOOD one! I think once we are able to accept that fact, it makes dealing with tough situations easier.
DeleteYep, "don't buy cheap shit" is a phrase we use around here a lot. Lesson learned on that one! I have changed a lot in 10 years due to having kids. I'm a lot more compassionate and try to think about other people's situations before reacting. You really just never know what's going on, like you said. Most important lesson learned for me in the last few years - get my run done in the morning, or it's probably not going to happen!
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine how much having kids can change someone! I know it's not the same as being a mom, but after 10 years of teaching, I have also become more compassionate!
DeleteYou are so right that not everyone matures. I don't want to be that crazy old lady acting like she's 16. I see plenty of that tho! It's a fine balance.
ReplyDeleteYeah, if you're gonna be the crazy old lady it better be for something cool!
DeleteThe difference between the Suzy in her twenties and the one in her thirties is like night and day. Divorce can do that to a person, I guess. So can a lot of other big life events which, and you are SO RIGHT, happen to everyone. We all have our shit and stories and drama, whether or not we show it or see it. The "semi-garden" thing made me giggle. Ha ha!
ReplyDeleteWell I say semi garden because I still need my mom's help. :)
DeleteI am sure divorce does change someone! Hopefully you changed for the better or are at least stronger because of it!
This is a Great list! It's posts like this that make me excited for the next time we meet ( our next long conversation..lol). I've recently learned that YES there are a lot of immature people out there, even people who are older than us who should "know better"!
ReplyDeleteI know we are both so busy with school and stuff but I also look forward to a nice long walk and chat again!
DeleteThe best part of aging is how much more comfortable I am with who I am...I've learned not to apologize for who I am!
ReplyDeleteThat's what I love about you!
DeleteI really hope I've changed since I was 13!! I know I still have A LOT of growing up and changing to do :)
ReplyDeleteHaha! It will be great, you will love your 20s!
DeleteGREAT post! I love the part about how everyone is going through something. sadly, I think a lot of people haven't learned that lesson yet...
ReplyDeleteI know. :( I think it is always best to just be kind and give the benefit of the doubt. You never know what is going on with someone!
DeleteLOL Karen you are hilarious. Congrats on 20 yrs!
ReplyDeleteAwesome post! I love the 'not all adults mature.' My facebook feed is evidence of that. I am slowly learning how to say 'No,' and I'm working on not apologizing for everything! I grew up being a people pleaser and it's super stressful!
ReplyDeleteOh it is too exhausting to please everyone! I have started to get PISSED when people are miffed at me saying no to something. It's my life, I'll do what I want!
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